Anyone who knows our family well knows that we are extremely conservative about most things. The role of husband and wife as well as father and daughter is one area where our family differs very much from the majority of our culture.
Our kids are constantly noting the creep of feminism into everyday culture – books, movies and TV shows. We rent “clean” TV sitcoms like “The Cosby Show” and enjoy them as a family. But even in these seemingly harmless episodes are the seeds of feminism. The men are often made to look inferior to the women in almost every way. The respect for the place of the man, as set forth by God, is often absent from these sitcoms and throughout our culture. Who is behind this loss of godly wisdom? Lest you doubt, remember that we are involved in a true spiritual battle.
Note this passage in the book of Numbers:
“Moses said to the heads of the tribes of Israel: “This is what the LORD commands: When a man makes a vow to the LORD or takes an oath to obligate himself by a pledge, he must not break his word but must do everything he said.
“When a young woman still living in her father’s household makes a vow to the LORD or obligates herself by a pledge and her father hears about her vow or pledge but says nothing to her, then all her vows and every pledge by which she obligated herself will stand. But if her father forbids her when he hears about it, none of her vows or the pledges by which she obligated herself will stand; the LORD will release her because her father has forbidden her.” — Numbers 30:1-5
It is clear here that God set the will of the father over the will of the daughter. He is able to override any vow she makes before the Lord – the wisdom of the father is set above the wisdom of the daughter. And in the following verses in this chapter, we see that the same rule applies to the will of the husband over the will of the wife.
In today’s world, these are unpopular views. In an effort to override God’s will, the tenets of humanism and Christian egalitarianism have tried to equate the role which God made separately, and in some cases, to reverse the preeminence. I can tell you this – in our household, we have elected to abide by God’s standard set out in Numbers, and the rule is occasionally (and fortunately, infrequently) put to the test.
Some will say that this rule no longer applies because we now live under New Testament law. To that, I answer, yes, we do live under a new law of grace, but does that new law explicitly reverse God’s views on the role of man and woman? I have to answer “No”. Check out scripture in 1 Timothy 2:11-12, 1 Corinthians 14:34-36 and especially 1 Corinthians 11:3-5. I’m also making my way through this article right now –“Male Authority and Female Equality in Light of Galatians 3:28”.